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To be rendered powerless does not destroy your humanity. Your resilience is your humanity. The only people who lose their humanity are those who believe they have the right to render another human being powerless. They are the weak. To yield and not break, that is incredible strength.”
― Hannah Gadsby

Resilience is a skill that takes a lifetime to develop. You may have thought it was a part of a person’s character, a personality trait. Nope. The only way to get resilience, my friend, is to face adversity and plow on through.

So let’s lean in and start working…

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“In response, psychologists tell me that it’s easier for someone who is struggling with interior feelings — of shame, hatred or confusion, about their sexuality — to direct it outward, rather than do the hard work of looking at themselves. The anger and self-hatred they may feel is more easily directed outward.

― Father James Martin, Facebook post December 5th, 2020.

I’ve had an odd time these last three weeks: I will light the advent wreath and it seems to symbolically set of a series of events that deeply challenge the theme for that week. …

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“First forget inspiration. Habit is more dependable. Habit will sustain you whether you’re inspired or not. Habit will help you finish and polish your stories. Inspiration won’t. Habit is persistence in practice.”

— Octavia Butler, Bloodchild and Other Stories

“It always seems impossible until it is done.”

Nelson Mandela

This week I contemplated the idea of persistence. As a foil for the idea of “reset”

— not so much never quitting, but that we keep going more or less on the same path, making small changes along the way.

Friday we closed the book on 2020 and opened up…

We’re all suffering collective loss during the pandemic. Here’s how to recognize the grief that results and first aid treatment to help.

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The Collective Grief of Covid-19 Social Distancing

Grief is the experience of loss. Loss from death of a loved one, loss from the transformation from married person to single, loss from giving up an old way of life for a new one.

A large percentage of the world’s population is participating in social distancing. Many of us have travel restrictions imposed, for others, bars and restaurants have been closed. Schools have been closed, we are being asked not to see or get close to our friends. There are stories of loved ones dying alone in the hospital because of quarantine restrictions.

We are grieving. Whether we grieve…


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  1. TWIL (This Week I Learned)

This week we learned about kindness. Our entire world turned upsidedown and we learned, quickly, to respond with kindness. The feeling I have is that many (most?) of us subconsciously knew that, if we could, we needed to show up strong and kind in an effort to set the tone for the duration. My feeling is that, unless we learn about kindness and pace ourselves, this is not sustainable. If we revert to “niceness”, the bottled-up stuff we “can’t say” because it isn’t “nice” is going to boil over into passive-aggressive pent up rage…


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This week I learned about solitude. Trying to find solitude in imposed aloneness. Trying to remember the joy of solitude when all I want is the comfort of friends. I’m motivated by the challenge: remembering that solitude, done right, can lead to me piloting myself, rather than being swayed by other people’s opinions. If we come out of this mess both more committed to each other but also stronger in our inner cores, what a blessing that will be. Cheers to that!

2. Quote

“It is an awful satire, and an epigram on the materialism of our modern age, that…

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Oh man alive. This pandemic. I’m doing my best to keep self-imposed writing commitments these days, but it’s difficult.

Mostly because I have been challenging myself to write about stuff that is deep for me: stuff that brings up all kinds of uncomfortable emotions. And yet, I am also attempting (awkwardly, as per normal) to navigate this with grace.

If yesterday’s article seemed too directive, almost patronizing, I apologize. I am frankly writing through fear, sadness, and anxiety as I attempt to do my emotional crunches, squats, and bicep curls each day :)

As I mentioned in Part 1 of…

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I have been noticing an outpouring of sharing resources for kids, questions about what to do with kids, and lovely pictures of kids being kids. It’s so heartening.

At the same time, I have noticed a bit of stress because families have suddenly been yanked out of their normal home, school/work, home routine into 24/7 home all day, every day. The kids, used to lots of friends and structure, are now home with only siblings and parents. …


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  1. This week I learned about joy. Reminded about the importance of practicing a joy stance every day. I honestly think it’s one of the most difficult things for me to do — I suspect I am not alone. Training for joy through gratitude — even when you don’t want to, even when it feels almost shameful (watch that word!) even when you’re afraid you might look un-hip or unintelligent or uncaring (How could you! in this time of suffering, be grateful? Do you not realize what is happening in the world?) — training for joy in difficult times is…

“When we lose our tolerance to be vulnerable, joy becomes foreboding.” ― Brene Brown, Daring Greatly

What an odd week to choose joy as my topic.

On Tuesday, I wrote about joy being a posture, not a feeling. Three days later, we are now officially in a pandemic. Wow. This week feels like APJoy and I didn’t study.

Brene Brown says in an interview with Oprah that “Joy is terrifying”.

Facing joy this week as we collectively come to terms with the Coronavirus (COVID-19)? …

Wendy Kiana Kelly

Dedicated to embracing the Underbelly — our own, society’s, the whole gamut. Homeschooled my four kids, studied MSc in mental health counseling.

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